Ah, Tinder... easy to hate.
Now as you know I am not a huge fan of you just using Tinder for dates. However, I can't deny that if you're aged 18- late 30s pretty much everyone you might want to date will have logged on so having a strong Tinder profile is a no brainer.
But (and this is a big but) Tinder can be soul-destroying if it's your only way of meeting guys!
Just one guy walking out of a kick-ass date with you, and logging straight back into Tinder is enough to be soul-destroying to any mortal woman
My solution?
Make your Tinder profile STRONG whilst building your self-esteem by meeting men in real life.
If you can meet more men you actually like you'll feel empowered to be choosier and less fazed when you need to kick a random bad egg to the curb.
And this also related to my first Tinder tip!
Tinder tip 1: Be selective!
There is no point having a gazillion matches with guys who you won't let take you for a drink.
Physical attraction is important but makes sure you also select guys who show hobbies and a lifestyle that matches yours. Likewise,make your profile represent you instead of just being a random selfie storm.
Tinder tip 2: Be specific!
When you’re specific about who you are and what you want, you attract that into your life.What is your intention?What is going to work for you, and what can YOU get on board with? Stating your intention and standing behind that!
Your intention behind online dating can be "I want to experience London, enjoy great views, and have interesting conversations".
No expectation - no endgame - purely intention, and being open... and then when things go a certain way, try not to over analyse or get stuck in the `what happened’.
Tinder tip 3: Online Dating Profile
The formula of great profile PHOTOS:
Clear headshot + interesting lifestyle + full body + social interaction
People use faces to make split-second judgements about our personalities.
The formula of great profile BIOGRAPHY:
Location+Interest+Unique attribute+Humour+What you want
Surely there is more than just the appearance right? How would you describe yourself in order to attract the most people online?You don't want to be too boastful, want to appear humble, the challenge is how can you sell yourself and tell a bit of your story in less than 200 words?
Do not be basic:
"I love to do yoga, workout, travel, and hang out with my friends"!
Be specific!
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Finally, 22% of people now meet through online dating. This is likely to overtake the dominant method (meeting though mutual friends 24%) within the next decade. For anyone who’s sat in a coma-like state swiping on Tinder I’d like to fly the flag for all forms of dating not involving a right swipe.
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Speak soon,
Hayley
