Tired of Dating Apps?
Struggling to meet high-quality partners in NYC? In a city of endless options, dating apps can feel like a frustrating numbers game. I help men & women skip the swiping and build real-world confidence. Get hands-on training at my Men’s Academy or Women’s Going Renegade bootcamp, or learn online with my Men’s Masterclass or Women’s Masterclass.
New York dating is fast, competitive, and overwhelming. The city's energy is electrifying, but it can also make dating frustrating and impersonal—especially if you're relying on dating apps.
As a NYC-based dating coach, I offer expert coaching designed for this city, helping you:
My coaching blends personal strategy, real-world experience, and direct feedback—so you can succeed in NYC’s unique dating scene.
"Just wanted to say a massive thank you for an incredible few days at Academy. Honestly, I came in not knowing what to expect, but I walked away with so much more confidence and a whole new perspective on dating (and myself)."
I take my clients out into real-world social environments, where you’ll practice meeting people in the same venues where dating actually happens:
No more endless swiping. No more fake profiles or ghosting. I’ll coach you step-by-step to start meeting partners organically, face-to-face, and with confidence.
"I used to overthink everything when it came to dating, but your program completely shifted my mindset. A few weeks after finishing, I met someone amazing, and for the first time, I feel confident and secure in my relationship. Thank you, Hayley—this has been life-changing!"
Can’t make it to NYC? My online coaching programs give you direct access to my expertise—wherever you are. Whether you prefer structured guidance at your own pace or real-time coaching, my programs provide clear, practical steps to improve your dating life.
"I knew I needed to do something different, but I kept putting it off. Hayley’s Masterclass completely flipped the way I approached meeting women. Instead of waiting for the ‘right moment,’ I just went for it—and it actually worked. The 8 challenges forced me out of my usual routine, and by the end, I was meeting women in places I’d never even considered before. Wish I’d done this sooner."
NYC is one of the most exciting cities in the world—but finding a real connection here isn’t always easy. With 15+ years of coaching experience, I help men and women meet high-quality partners beyond the apps. Ready to transform your dating life? Let’s get started.
Dating in NYC is different from anywhere else. With years of experience coaching in New York, I’ll help you navigate the city’s fast-paced, high-stakes dating scene—from Lower East Side cocktail bars to Brooklyn cafés.
Forget endless texting—my hands-on approach helps you build confidence, meet people naturally, and master in-person interactions at social venues across Manhattan and Brooklyn.
I’ve coached thousands of men and women, from busy professionals to creatives, helping them build confidence, attract high-quality partners, and find love in NYC’s competitive dating scene.
Every person—and every dating challenge—is unique. Whether you want to approach women in real life or refine your communication skills, I’ll personalize a strategy that works for you.
“Before the Masterclass I was basically stuck in the same cycle, always second-guessing myself. Hayley’s ‘When to Lean In & Lean Out’ made me realize I was giving WAY too much energy to guys who weren’t even meeting me halfway. Just that one shift changed everything :) I don’t stress over texts anymore, I know when to step back. Feels like a whole new world.”
Hear from real New Yorkers who’ve transformed their dating lives with my coaching. Whether it’s building confidence, meeting high-quality partners, or making real-world connections, these success stories prove that change is possible—right here in the city!
"I always thought I just needed better lines or to ‘stand out’ more. But I was making it way harder than it needed to be. Thanks Hayley! Your challenges pushed me to actually meet women in real life—without feeling like I was forcing it or trying to be someone I'm not. The first time I used the Go First Principle, I got a date out of it. Wild.”
"I figured dating was just a numbers game... swiping non-stop and hoping for the best :) Hayley’s 80/20 Rule blew my mind. I stopped wasting time on women who weren’t interested and put my focus on real-life connections. Just two weeks after Masterclass, I met someone in person. First time in years! Thanks Hayley!"
"I nearly bailed on the first night of Academy because I was convinced I wasn’t the ‘type’ to just walk up and talk to women. But Hayley made it so simple—suddenly, I wasn’t stuck in my head, I was just doing it. By the last night, I had actual dates lined up. Not gonna lie, I’m still in shock."
"Before working with Hayley [on Going Renegade] I thought meeting men in real life was impossible unless you were a super extrovert. Turns out, I just needed the right approach. Learning VEP (voice, eye contact, proximity) changed everything—guys actually notice me now, and I don’t have to do mental gymnastics to get them to talk to me. Wish I’d done this sooner."
“Renegade flipped the script for me. I always thought guys had to make the first move, but once I started using Hayley’s ‘Act of Service’ challenge, it was like doors just opened. Smiling at a guy, making a comment about his book—it’s so small but it works.”
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As a dating coach in New York, I provide expert coaching to help you build confidence, improve social skills, and meet high-quality partners in real-world settings. My coaching blends personalized advice with hands-on training in social venues across Manhattan and Brooklyn, so you can navigate dating with ease—without relying on apps.
My in-person coaching sessions are designed to take you out into real social environments, such as cocktail bars, coffee shops, and cultural hubs. Whether you're joining a group bootcamp or working with me 1-to-1, you'll get real-time feedback and support as you practice meeting and connecting with people naturally.
Yes! I coach both men and women, offering tailored programs to suit different dating challenges. Men can join Real Academy for in-person coaching, while women can experience hands-on coaching with Going Renegade. If you prefer to learn from home, I also offer structured online coaching programs.
Absolutely! If you can’t attend in-person coaching, my Online Masterclass for men and Virtual Masterclass for women provide expert guidance and personalized feedback that you can access from anywhere.
If you feel stuck in your dating life, struggle with confidence, or want to break free from dating apps, coaching is a game-changer. Whether you're an experienced dater looking for better results or someone who hasn’t dated in years, I’ll help you develop the skills and mindset to succeed in real-world dating.
Book a free 30-minute consultation to discuss your goals and see which program is the best fit for you. Whether you're ready for in-person coaching or an online program, I’ll guide you toward the right option. Ready to transform your dating life? Book Your Consultation.
New York City is one of the most dynamic and fast-paced dating environments in the world. With so many people and opportunities, dating should be easier—but the reality is that most singles struggle to make meaningful connections. Between busy schedules, overwhelming choices, and the reliance on dating apps, many people find it difficult to meet high-quality partners. That’s where in-person dating coaching makes a real difference—helping you stand out, build confidence, and create authentic connections in real-world settings.
Results vary depending on your starting point and how much effort you put in. Some clients see a dramatic shift in their confidence and dating success within just a few weeks, while others benefit from ongoing support and coaching over several months. Whether you join a weekend bootcamp or an extended coaching program, you’ll gain practical skills that you can use immediately to improve your dating life. Check out some of my client success stories here.
