Dating Coach | Hayley Quinn
I’m a UK-based dating coach working with clients worldwide. For the past 15 years I’ve specialised in real-world, results-driven coaching that teaches you how to date confidently—offline, face-to-face, and without relying on apps. Get real-world training at my men’s dating bootcamp, Real Academy, or women’s dating bootcamp, Going Renegade. Prefer to learn online? Explore my Men’s Masterclass or Women’s Masterclass.
Who is my dating coaching for?
I work with smart, successful people who are doing well in most areas of life, but feel stuck with dating.
If any of this feels familiar, let’s talk about your goals:
- Dating apps feel draining and aren’t leading anywhere
- You’re unsure how to meet people in real life, or if you’re even ‘allowed’ to do that
- You feel invisible to the people you want to attract
- You want practical guidance, not vague theory and platitudes
- You prefer structured, hands-on coaching
- You want something authentic, non-sleazy, and grounded in real world behavioural changes.
- Your goal is to have an abundance of choice in your dating life, and to choose a partner who’s right for you, when you’re ready.
My programmes are active, structured, and deliberately challenging, and well suited to people who are in good mental health who are ready to be guided outside their comfort zone. If you’re ready to make big changes in your dating life, and go on a journey of personal transformation, you’re in the right place.
Why trust me as your Dating Coach
Proven Coaching Experience
With 15+ years as a dating coach, I’ve trained thousands of men and women throughout the world, including the UK, Europe, North America , Australasia and Asia. My approach is practical, structured, and results driven. I’ll work with you to develop real world social skills, practical strategies for dating and renewed self confidence.
Years of Strong Client Results
I have a 4.9★ rating on Google. I focus on building mutual trust and long-term relationships with my clients. I’ll be there for your entire journey, and you’ll learn to count on me for straight-up, objective advice.
Battle Tested Methods
My in-person dating bootcamps (Real Academy and Going Renegade) teach my unique dating methodology.
These bootcamps have been independently reviewed by major publications for their real-world application and coaching integrity:
Cosmopolitan: “...if you're just feeling exhausted by dating and want to shift your mindset and feel more open and confident, I can't imagine there's much else that would be as effective. After all, it turned this sceptic into a believer.”
The Independent:“...dating coach extraordinaire Hayley Quinn swiftly puts me at ease… (she’s) inspired me to stop swiping, ignore the awkwardness, get out there and give it a go.”
These reviews highlight what clients experience first-hand: a coaching method based on real behavioural transformation, not surface-level advice.
Practical, Hands-On Approach To Dating That Works In Reality
Every programme is designed to give you live practice, structured challenges, and clear feedback. You learn by doing—so the confidence and skills you build translate directly into real-life dating. You won’t hear fluffy advice, platitudes, or excuses. Yes, dating can be challenging—but together we’ll make it enjoyable, rewarding and ultimately successful.
Why my dating coaching works
You’re here because you want real results in your love life. That’s why my coaching focuses on practical strategies, not just theory. Whether you want immersive, in-person training or structured online guidance, I offer programs designed to build confidence and dating success—without guesswork or gimmicks.
Over the past 15+ years, I’ve helped thousands of men and women through my hands-on coaching. My approach blends real-world experience with direct feedback, helping you apply what you learn in actual dating scenarios.
For those ready to take action, my men’s dating bootcamp and women’s dating bootcamp provide hands-on coaching and real-world results.
How My Programs Work
I believe everyone faces unique challenges with dating; that’s why my programs are 100% personalized to you. We’ll play to your strengths and identify your growth areas. Most clients begin with my 6-week online program, called Virtual Masterclass. Many take this a step further, and include a 4-day in-person bootcamp for deeper real-world practice.
All my programs blend:
- Live Coaching Sessions via Zoom
- Live Coaching Support via WhatsApp
- Pre-recorded Self-Study Video Modules
- Structured challenges to keep your accountable
- Tailored exercises to build social confidence
- Roleplaying
- (Optional) In-Person Bootcamps to get you meeting people in real life
What male clients are saying about Hayley Quinn
“The highlight of Real Academy was this: I had more conversations with women over 4 days than I had over many years. I was even able to get a phone number even though I was visiting London from California.”
My coaching process explained
My goal is to help you to feel fully confident in your ability to meet, attract and build relationships with the people you want. Once you turn on that self belief, you'll naturally raise your standards and (in time) choose a great partner for you.
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1. Foundations
I'll strengthen your habits, lifestyle, and social visibility so you naturally meet more people in your day-to-day life. (Along the way I can also review your dating apps and messages but this is your "dating side-hustle".) My aim is for you to use real world encounters as your primary channel to meet people. In real life is where you will be the most attractive!
2. Meet people in the real world
You’ll learn socially attuned ways to meet people in real life. If you can meet people in the real world, you’ll gain a lot of new dating options, and motivation! This work is also nothing short of transformational for your self esteem. Whether you're a man navigated if you're allowed to approach her, or a woman wondering where all the men have gone, I can't wait to share my unique training methods with you.
3. Communication Skills
I build a messaging strategy that fits your personality and develop conversation techniques that make your dates feel more playful, connected, and authentic. I want you to hit send with confidence!
4. Becoming a Romantic Option
I help you to refine the subtle behaviours that make you more visible, memorable, and compelling to the people you want to attract. Working with men and women I can also give you a unique take on exactly what the other sex is thinking and feeling throughout the coaching process.
5. Better Dates, Better Choices
You’ll learn how to have motivating dates, express desire confidently, and focus on partners who are genuinely a good match. I’ll also work through every curve ball and bump in the road to build your emotional resilience for dating.
6. Early Relationship Support
I build long term relationships with my clients and I help many people through the early stages of building a relationship — boundaries, pacing, intimacy, and commitment. I also love a wedding picture! However, our goal isn’t about finding the One, it’s about YOU becoming the person who can build the relationships they want.
7. Mindset & Confidence
All my practical social skills work is underpinned by helping you to tap into the confident mindsets that help you forge better self esteem, and ultimately relationships. I want you to feel self assured, positive and a rock solid in the belief that its going to happen for you.
Shake-up your dating life, while learning from home
Want expert dating advice at your own pace? My online coaching programs offer structured guidance, real-time coaching, and proven strategies to improve your confidence and success in dating—wherever you are.
What female clients are saying about Hayley Quinn
"As you know I met my boyfriend just a couple of weeks after your program finished. I think the real-life interactions and meeting people in person helped me to change some of my ways so much faster. 100% I could not be happier :) Thank you for everything Hayley!"
Accelerate your learning — join me in the wild!
Ready to step out of your comfort zone and let the real magic happen? My in-person coaching bootcamps are designed to deliver the fastest transformation possible. In a small, supportive group setting, we’ll head out to trendy London bars and cool coffee shops where you’ll break through social barriers, meet people naturally, and apply proven dating strategies—in the real world.
What more male clients are saying
"The key thing working with you was how you blend perspectives from both men and women. It's given me a totally new understanding of dating that I never got from other coaches."
Choose from 3 great dating programs for men
Virtual Masterclass
My complete 6-week coaching program offers an A to Z of practical skills for your dating life which you can learn from home — simple! And it's personalized!
Real Academy
Join one of my signature 4-day city bootcamps in London or New York City, and I'll show you how to meet more women in real-life than ever before.
5 stages of working with me as your dating coach
I will coach you in 5 stages as you move towards the ultimate goal of choosing a great partner. The process typically takes 2-12 months. Dating coaching is highly individual, and requires effort from you too. Similar to working with a personal trainer: if the only time you go to the gym is with them, it will take you longer to achieve your goals.
Mindset
What beliefs, or previous knocks to your self esteem, may be holding you back from dating successfully?
Let’s create a positive mindset around dating, to help you sail through the inevitable ups and downs of meeting people.
I want you to find dating fun and motivating so you stay focused on your goals, despite what life throws at you.
How to approach dating from a place of confidence and self worth.
How to date in a way that’s highly personalised to your unique goals and personality.
How to find dating fun, energising and a new form personal development that you can feel excited about.
Meeting People
When you only meet one person a year that you click with, inevitably there’s a lot of pressure on that interaction. If it doesn’t work out, you may feel devastated.
To avoid what we call “dating life scarcity” let’s develop the tools so you can meet people in real life. That’s not just knowing where to go, it’s about how you can start conversations with people, or how you can encourage them to talk to you.
You’re about to learn a lot about social skills and body language… and (of course) we’ll help you create a killer dating app profile. But the really good news? You’ll never again rely on apps as the only way to meet people.
Where to meet new people.
How to approach someone in real life, or effectively signal to them that you’re open to them talking to you. It is possible!
Communication Skills
Whether you’ve met someone in real life, and want to build a connection. Or you’re messaging someone you like and they throw you a curveball message. Or you’re on a first date and you want to see how compatible you are… Dating and relationships require advanced communication skills.
Learning how to communicate specifically in the area of dating can help you choose the right partner faster, handle tricky social situations, and holistically build your social confidence.
How to improve your communication skills, meaning sparkier dates and better connections.
How to improve your overall social skills and awareness.
How to effectively message people at every stage of the dating process. No more staring at your phone screen agonising over whether you wrote something wrong!
Creating Attraction
You may be a brilliant communicator at work, for example, but do you know how to interact with someone to signal “romantic opportunity” instead of just “friendship” or “networking”?
You may be clueless as to how to flirt, or even the idea of flirting makes your toes curl with discomfort.
Perhaps you’re a highly decisive woman who’s struggling to connect to her feminine side (although deep down you really want a man who steps up to take care of you.)
Perhaps you’re a man who is never seen as a potential boyfriend and always sidelined as a “good friend”.
In modern life, there may be work to do to reconnect you to the side of yourself (we promise, it does exist) that is sexy, flirtatious and holistically attractive.
▪️ Key Learnings
How to present yourself as a date, and not just a “really nice acquaintance.”
How to be compelling and become the ‘stand out’ person someone is excited to date.
Building Relationships
Once you’ve created a successful approach to dating, you’ll be equipped with the skills to find and choose a partner. (If that’s your ultimate goal.)
With this new feeling of abundance and confidence you will be better placed to negotiate the inevitable challenges that relationships bring.
Are they the right person for me? Can I overcome the fact they don’t share some of my goals? How do I communicate if I want — or don’t want — commitment? How can I recover from a disagreement and communicate with my partner effectively?
Remember: Ironically, this brand new set of challenges may be just what you were hoping for when you started out on your journey!
▪️ Key Learnings
How to say no to the wrong relationships, to create more space for the right ones.
How to negotiate building a committed relationship with someone you like.
What more clients are saying Hayley
“My biggest breakthrough after working with Hayley… was the moment I started talking to this woman for about 45 minutes. That’s never happened to me before.”
Listen to Julia share her incredible story, and how Hayley's in-person coaching has reshaped her approach to dating.
Pick from 3 great dating programs for women
Going Renegade
My unique, results-driven 4-week dating bootcamp is for women who want a big change in their dating lives, confidence levels and are ready to meet their guy.
Virtual Masterclass
My comprehensive 4-week coaching program designed for smart, successful women who shouldn’t “need” a dating coach. Personalized to you!
What more clients are saying
“After working with you I’ve 100 times more choice than I had before. I’m now able to comfortably sit on a park bench next to any man, and strike up a conversation.”
The ultimate 1-to-1 experience
Reserved for those who want truly one-on-one attention and bespoke advice, Private Coaching is designed for clients looking for the highest level of personal service. I work with a select few individuals to create custom strategies tailored specifically to their dating journey and geography.
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Why do customers choose me?
Over 15 years, I’ve helped thousands of men & women build confidence and find meaningful relationships. Ready for your transformation? Choose a coaching program and take action today.
Proven Results
Practical, real-world advice that’s been tested and proven to work.
Understanding Both Sides
With experience coaching both men and women, I get how each sex thinks and can help you navigate relationships from both perspectives. You’ll gain insights into what really works and how to connect authentically.
100% Personalized
Whether you're looking for advice tailored to you or want to learn at your own pace, my programs adapt to your specific situation.
Confidence-Building
Whether online or in-person, you’ll get the tools to boost your confidence and approach dating with a fresh perspective.
What more clients are saying about Hayley Quinn
Explore the success stories and transformational experiences of my countless satisfied clients, highlighting the real-world impact of my dating and relationships expertise.
"Hayley and her experienced team are nothing short of dynamic and inspirational. Their insight, patience and wisdom has completely re-shaped my apporach to dating. I have traveled from a place of low self-belief and esteem to a place of confidence and value. Hayley is gifted not only in the coaching of men and women's dating but also has an awesome ability to create a supportive community among her students. I couldn't have asked for more."
"This woman is incredible - if you can, get on one of her intensives! I took part in the Going Renegade for woman for a weekend and it was amazing - a great way to learn and develop skills for approaching and speaking to men. I met a lovely bunch of supportive woman and we stay in touch and still meet up to practice our skills together out on the town!!"
"I travelled from Canada to London to join one of Hayley's programs. As a foreigner who loves British culture it was AMAZING visiting bars and clubs with Hayley and her crew. The skills taught are useful not only in romantic relationships but also for making friends and business networking. I would definitely do this again! So if you like traveling and are willing to approach new people, just do it!"
"I'm still high from the weekend lol thank you everyone, I feel like I'm in a adult version of Harry Potter, going around casting spells"
"A life-changing experience I'd put off for years, but finally took the plunge! Hayley and her team are incredibly welcoming and immediately put you at ease. I was initially skeptical, fearing another 'PUA' program, but boy, was I wrong! They're flexible, relaxed, and empower you to be yourself, offering unwavering support. If you're not where you want to be in your dating life, sign up with Hayley and her amazing coaches—you won't regret it!"
Listen to Chris share his transformational journey, and how Hayley's coaching has redefined his approach to dating.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Who is the world's best dating coach?
There are many dating coaches, each with different approaches. The best dating coach for you depends on your goals—whether you want to improve confidence, online dating skills, or real-world interactions.
Hayley Quinn is a leading dating coach known for:
In-person coaching that helps clients ditch dating apps and meet people in person.
- A TEDx talk on love and dating with over 3 million views.
- Two published books with HarperCollins and Simon & Schuster.
What does a dating coach do?
A dating coach helps individuals develop confidence, social skills, and dating strategies. Coaching may involve:
- Mindset shifts to overcome dating anxiety.
- Communication techniques for real conversations.
- Profile makeovers to help you succeed on dating apps.
- Real-world practice to meet people in natural settings.
- In-person coaching that helps clients ditch dating apps and meet people in person.
Hayley Quinn specializes in practical, real-world coaching to help clients improve their dating lives beyond dating apps.
How do I find the right dating coach?
To find the right dating coach, consider:
- Coaching Style – Do they focus on online dating, in-person coaching, or confidence-building? Do you share a similar vibe?
- Experience & Reputation – Have they been featured in media or published books?
- Client Results – Are there testimonials and success stories you relate to?
- Practicality – Do they offer actionable steps, not just theory?
Hayley Quinn is unique in offering step-by-step real-world coaching to help clients gain confidence in live interactions.
Is paying for a dating coach worth it?
Yes, if you're looking for structured guidance to improve your dating life. Coaching is especially useful if:
- You struggle to take action despite watching videos or reading books.
- You feel overwhelmed or don’t know where to start.
- You want real-world feedback to improve your social confidence.
Hayley Quinn’s men's dating bootcamp and women's dating bootcamp provide hands-on coaching to accelerate learning.
Does Hayley Quinn do online dating coaching?
Yes, Hayley Quinn provides structured virtual coaching through:
- Men’s Masterclass – A step-by-step online course for men.
- Women’s Masterclass – Personalized guidance for women.
Does Hayley Quinn work with men or women?
Yes, Hayley Quinn works with both men and women. This gives her a unique perspective on:
- How attraction works from both sides.
- Common challenges men and women face in dating.
- How to build confidence and authenticity in dating.
- How to understand what other person is thinking and feeling.
Is Hayley Quinn a relationship coach?
Hayley Quinn is a leading dating coach, specialising in helping men and women navigate modern dating. While a relationship coach typically works with couples, Hayley focuses on dating strategy, confidence-building, and real-world attraction skills. She has been featured as a relationship expert in Cosmopolitan, The Independent, and as a spokesperson for Match.
Are there success stories from Hayley Quinn’s coaching clients?
Yes! Thousands of men and women have successfully transformed their dating lives through Hayley Quinn’s coaching. See real client success stories here.
