Why He Disappeared: Understanding Duality in Dating
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Life is NOT turning out like you expected it. You want to reach your goals but you’re starting to think that your dream guy, job and life isn’t going to happen. You know you’re in a rut, you’re losing confidence and the motivation to change.
I know how awesome you are – so why are you wasting your time with people who make you feel less than great, and who ultimately you DO NOT have a future with?
We’re guessing you’re a woman who likes to take action, but doesn’t always know where to start.
Dating skills training is like hiring a personal trainer. With expert knowledge, support, guidance and your own participation you can and will get what you want. We’re talking life changing, impactful results in just weeks. No squats necessary.
Hoping for change doesn’t work – creating change does.
If you continue to sit at home and hope for a change in your life to present itself, you can get comfortable sitting exactly where you are because you won’t be going anywhere soon! However just like how we can train our bodies in fitness or our mind in knowledge we have a platform with concrete and simple steps to help you create and experience exciting results in your life… you might even get a hot date or two.
Imagine a world where you have the power to trust your decisions, and feel confident that you can meet the men who are best suited to you.
We spend most of our time worrying that we’re not making the right decisions, or not feeling like we have choice. You are going to change how you approach dating and finally have the clarity, confidence and vision to attract the men you want, get rid of the ones you don’t and in the meantime get your own life sorted.
The thing about guys is, they’re everywhere. Finding men is easy (& if you don’t know how I can show you). I want you to become so secure in yourself that you can confidently choose the guys who excite you, and walk when the relationship is going nowhere. And of course a great relationship with him is ALWAYS going to be secondary to a great relationship in your own life.
Am I clear in what I want?
Am I meeting interesting men?
Am I going on high quality dates?
Am I with a man who respects and excites me?
Am I winning in my own life?
Where have all the good ones gone?
Define, develop & create a plan for YOU
Attract and approach men in real life
No more settling for mediocre dates
If he doesn’t accept you, F*ck him – or rather don’t
Join us and you will
What do you want?
I have helped thousands of men and women get more dates, understand each other better and communicate what they want.
I do not believe in ‘cookie cutter’ love and dating rules. My goal is to empower you to understand what uniquely works for you. To do this my approach to dating skills training emphasizes you getting off the sidelines, becoming an action taker and learning the skills you need to create change. It combines the best of my understanding of human behaviour and social skills techniques learned from the world of pick up artists; combined my outlook that these techniques can be taught in a way that is ethical and great for both men and women.
My advice is non-sleazy, smart and sophisticated for a modern dating world.
Since the start of this year my techniques have been featured in the Telegraph, the Metro and ELLE magazine. They’ve formed into my signature women’s weekend training event ‘Going Renegade’ where women learn how they can approach men. They’ve been pitched to online dating companies in San Francisco to help them improve their user experience. They’ve helped women to not feel apologetic about their singleness, to go on more dates, to tell men what they want and to feel happier.
These ideas have made viral YouTube videos (12.5 Million views and counting), a TEDx talk and numerous TV appearances. Now for the first time this ‘renegade’ approach to love and dating is becoming the cool dating guide for women. If you’re passionate about meeting more people, taking action and learning how you can date smarter & better I’d also love you to check out my exclusive community for dating coaching: the HQ Club.
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